Looking back on the past 8 years of raising Brantley, I've realized there's so much I wish I had known from the start. Here are five insights that have influenced my parenting journey with a child on the spectrum.
1. Prioritize Self-care:
Raising a child with autism, comes with a lot of demands and it's tempting to put your child’s needs above everything else at all times. However, you can’t pour from an empty cup, so neglecting your own well-being isn't sustainable. Self-care isn't selfish—it's crucial for your mental and emotional health. Prioritize activities that replenish your energy — even if it means stealing moments at odd hours — because filling your cup benefits both you and your child.
2. Set Boundaries Without Guilt:
Not every social event will suit your child's needs, and that's perfectly okay. Saying "no" without guilt is essential for your family's happiness. Trust your instincts and prioritize your child's well-being over societal pressures. Declining invitations isn't a sign of weakness—it's a display of strength and self-awareness.
3. Consider Educational Choices:
While many children thrive in mainstream public schools, it's not the best fit for every child. If your child is struggling in this setting, considering an autism-specific school could be a game-changer. Accepting this alternative education option can help your child reach their full potential and means no less of your child or the mainstream school.
4. Embrace Unconventional Approaches:
There's no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting a child with Autism. What works for another family may not work for yours. Trust your instincts, and don't hesitate to venture off the beaten path. Sometimes, unconventional approaches lead to unexpected progress.
5. Seize the Data:
In the world of autism, data is your friend. Keep detailed records of your child's behaviors, triggers, and progress is key. These records not only deepen your understanding of your child but also play a vital role in your advocacy journey. By documenting observations, interventions, and outcomes, you can equip yourself with the insights needed to effectively advocate for your child.
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