Children are inherently curious, especially when encountering someone with a disability.
Over the last 8 years we have observed various reactions to children’s questions about Brantley. The visible panic often prompts parents to redirect their child's curiosity. However, responses to inquiries on why Brantley doesn't talk range from comical to infuriating, some eliciting strong emotions.
When addressing your child’s curiosity, embrace it rather than dismiss their questions. Redirecting or stifling a child's curiosity about disabilities inadvertently teaches them to avoid those with disabilities.
If you're uncertain about how to respond, consider the following advice:
- Recognize the differences but emphasize the strengths of the child, not just their limitations.
- Clarify that disabilities aren't illnesses and aren't contagious.
- Highlight similarities such as how individuals with disabilities share the same basic needs and desires.
- Don’t let your emotions play into the conversation. A disability is simply different not less and it is not something to pity.
- Most importantly, set an example for your children. Demonstrate acceptance, inclusivity, respect, and kindness.
When applying these principles to Brantley, explain that his mind functions differently than most others. Acknowledge that he doesn’t communicate with his voice but rather through expressions, movements, and a device resembling an iPad. Note how his impressive jumps are similar or even higher than all the other kids on the trampoline. Interact with him just as you would with anyone in your circle to illustrate how his face lights up when he is acknowledged or how his deep belly giggle erupts at the sound of a joke.
In the end, the power to cultivate kindness, acceptance, and inclusivity in your child lies in your hands. By fostering open conversations and embodying these virtues in your daily life, you contribute to a future where differences are celebrated and understood.
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